Hey everybody! I'm doing a more serious post today.
Many many months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. Obviously, I was heartbroken and later wrote my post "Two or Three Words." Now, when I look back at my ex, these are the reasons I should have broken up with him sooner.
1. You need someone who is motivated towards a goal.
2. You deserve someone who doesn't sit around and care more about video games.
3. You need someone who listens to you when you say to stop.
4. You need someone who is an intellectual equal. Not saying he was stupid, just saying he didn't care to be smarter.
5. You need someone who doesn't act like a child anymore.
6. You deserve someone who is willing to fight for what they care about.
7. You need someone that believes in God.
8. You need someone who has a name that rolls off your tongue with such elegance that it only seems natural and instinctive to say that name.
9. You need someone who knows what they want, whether it be their future college major or the characteristics of their spouse.
10. You need someone that doesn't make you uncomfortable because of their anger issues, or yelling fits.
11. You deserve someone who never swears at you, whether joking or not.
12. You need someone who understands that music is important and is the one of the few things on this planet that you will always put your heart and soul into.
13. You need someone that never raises his voice at you, especially in arguments.
14. You need someone who knows when to say that they're wrong or they're sorry. They need to be able to confess their flaws.
15. You deserve someone who never calls out what makes you the most insecure, whether it be physically or intellectually.
16. You deserve someone that keeps their promises.
17. You need someone that doesn't freak out when you talk about things in your life that aren't comfortable situations, like mental illnesses or disorders.
18. You need someone that will participate in conversations or events that are important to you.
19. You need someone who will agree and respect your traditions or beliefs, like deciding to keep sex until marriage or not opening any gifts on Christmas Eve.
20. You need someone who dresses nice, whether it be for a date, dance, going to church, or just hanging out in general.
21. You need someone who doesn't call their shoes their "babies" and doesn't dress like someone they're not.
22. You need someone who works hard and thinks he's hardly working, not someone who hardly works and thinks he's working hard.
23. You deserve someone who puts time into their appearance, like styling their hair or whitening their teeth.
24. You need someone who doesn't play games with you because he thinks it's funny.
25. You need someone that doesn't get offended when you do something (when he does it too and you look the other way).
26. You need someone who compliments your mind as much as your body.
27. You need someone who doesn't threaten to break up with you whenever you do something he doesn't like.
28. You need someone who thinks you're funny and will laugh at your worst jokes.
29. You need someone who dreams big for himself; those dreams should include you.
30. You need someone who doesn't get angry when you're too busy to reply back.
If you think you're in a toxic relationship, you probably are.
stay safe, i love you, thank you for reading, and message me if you need to talk. x
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I adore this post, Hannah! I remember my very first relationship. It was a nightmare coming out of it. I didn't know how real cyberbullying was until I experienced it. Definitely toxic. I tried so hard to distract myself with other things, but everything still seemed to haunt me.
ReplyDeleteThis post was very inspirational! I hope it reaches a number of viewers. It deserves it. Thanks for sharing! X
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thank you so much! x that honestly means a lot.
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